No one should grieve alone. The problem, tho, is that grievers are afraid to ASK for help and friends don't know HOW to help. Harold Ivan Smith, has wonderful things to say about this topic:
1. When someone says to you, "You can't understand what I'm going through, because you've never lost a child (spouse, etc.)," we can then respond with, "I will never understand unless you tell me what it's like to be you."
2. "Sometimes people tell me......"
3. Lastly, Dr. Smith asks a poignant question: "When you can't see the cables on a bridge because of fog, you know the supports are still there. Who are your "cables?"
You've cried at weddings, right? At the birth of a baby? And, of course, you've probably cried at funerals, but have you ever stopped to wonder why both happy and sad events, make you so emotional? Even worse, do you often feel like you're the only one? I will impart wisdom gleaned from professional conferences, seminars, books and articles and/or I will blog my personal thoughts. Either way, I hope you check in often, so you know that your tears are never shed in a vacuum!
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
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- Ms. Baby Boomer-dang
- Dallas, TX, United States
- I am an educator and consultant, in the field of loss and grief. I love educating others, as well as learning from them, about life's little and big, happy and sad losses: marriage, divorce, moving away, losing one's health, aging gracefully.....or not......death of a loved one, a pet, a dream, children growing up and parents having to let go, etc. etc. Hopefully, you get the picture. Let's laugh, cry and learn together!
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- REFRAMING
- MOVING FORWARD
- HAVE NO REGRETS
- TAGGING ON TO YESTERDAY'S TOPIC
- HELP!
- FORGIVENESS
- CRYING IS A GOOD THING!
- THERE'S AN ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM
- BECOMING AN ORPHAN
- TUCK EVERLASTING
- GIVING YOU A FEW DAYS REST
- SOME THINGS NEVER CHANGE
- ANTICIPATORY GRIEF
- HOSPICE: WHAT A WAY TO GO!
- YES, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO THINK ABOUT IT!
- SHORT AND SWEET
- THAT HORRIBLE GUILT!
- WE ALL NEED SUPPORT
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