Lately, I've been reflecting on how many times this statement has been said to me or I've said it to others. Alot. The sad thing is, that the intention is always genuine. We have strong friendships or relationships with other people that we want to remain strong, but for many reasons, mainly time and distance, those ties unravel. I find it sad, because I really like all the people with whom I've lost touch.
I went on a Tauck tour a couple of years ago to the Canadian Rockies. It was fabulous! For those of you who don't know what Tauck is, it is a wonderful travel company that puts together the most outstanding tours, with very little effort on your part. Anyway, we met the nicest people, from all over the world, several with whom we vowed to keep in touch. We did so, with one couple from New York. Other than that, not one person has emailed, nor I with them. How sad! We spent 10 days together, all day, everyday, and I genuinely liked these people. Blink. A moment in time. That's all that was.
I had a financial advisor for over 10 years that was like a friend to me- both he and his assistant. I adored these two people. Then, for various reasons, I had to leave them and go elsewhere. We promised that we would all stay in touch- no hard feelings. We tried for awhile, but it couldn't be sustained. Poof. Over.
My guy and I recently, mutually, ended our 12 year relationship. I adore his family and they felt the same way about me. So, we all vowed to never lose touch with one another, because I was like part of their family. Our intentions were truly heartfelt. I also know that lots of things come into play, like allegiances to the true family member and long stretches without seeing each other anymore. We all want to act as if everything will stay the same.......but it won't......because it can't. Without alot of effort on everyone's parts, our attachments to one another will die a slow death. Very sad.
There are so many kinds of relationships people have with one another, but no matter what kind they are, when they end or wane, they leave a hole in one's heart. Thank goodness for the memories! Happy sad tears.
You've cried at weddings, right? At the birth of a baby? And, of course, you've probably cried at funerals, but have you ever stopped to wonder why both happy and sad events, make you so emotional? Even worse, do you often feel like you're the only one? I will impart wisdom gleaned from professional conferences, seminars, books and articles and/or I will blog my personal thoughts. Either way, I hope you check in often, so you know that your tears are never shed in a vacuum!
Sunday, August 25, 2013
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- Ms. Baby Boomer-dang
- Dallas, TX, United States
- I am an educator and consultant, in the field of loss and grief. I love educating others, as well as learning from them, about life's little and big, happy and sad losses: marriage, divorce, moving away, losing one's health, aging gracefully.....or not......death of a loved one, a pet, a dream, children growing up and parents having to let go, etc. etc. Hopefully, you get the picture. Let's laugh, cry and learn together!
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